+ we need to look for solutions to the problem of jealousy—I was on the couch today, nursing a prodigious hangover, when up on my...

+ rant: on men being more dominant—So you may have noticed I play submissive to men.  Lately I am trying ...

+ summer, drinks, and pretty girls—I found some pictures.  Everyone loves pictures!  Here I am recovering...

+ on the whore’s fallacy—From Dear Coke Talk, who may singlehandedly redeem the advice column g...

+ squirting solutions—This entry brought to you by the idea that it is awesome to masturbate...

+ art of restraint—I had the good timing to be in San Francisco last week during one of M...

+ memories—Sometimes coming to from a faint is like floating out of the sweetest ...

+ stepladder—I wrote this back in September in the long wake of my breakup with the...

+ better weather—We were headed to Kinkfest and I was well-rested, fed, and flirty.  I ...

+ so, hey, it’s been a while—I suspect a little self-awareness is the death knell for many bloggers...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 8/11/10 6:06pm.  Score: 4430

+ I was reminded yesterday by a friend that I haven'...—I was reminded yesterday by a friend that I haven't posted to this jou...

+ Get your very own poster of the sex map!—Get your very own poster of the sex map!Available for pre order now:

+ — Find out where I've journeyedon the Map of Human Sexuality!Or ge...

+ bzz bzz bzz (that's busy as a bee) get your mind out of the gutter! (or not)—I've been so busy *doing* things lately I haven't had much time t...

+  I was just struck by an amusing thought. Whe...— I was just struck by an amusing thought. When I don't know how t...

+ Trying to figure out if something is normal or ...—Trying to figure out if something is normal or not. I'm pretty sure it...

+ Oh - I don't think i've specifically mentioned ...—Oh - I don't think i've specifically mentioned it but I am now screeni...

+ I want to be beaten. It's been  almost a mont...—I want to be beaten. It's been  almost a month. Hopefully I'll ge...

+ *WANT* —*WANT*  http://www.blowfish.com/catalog/toys/nonreal_dildos.html#...

+ A fantasy—Posted at the request of.. someone special.  One variant of ...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 8/28/09 9:20pm.  Score: 3258

+ There's a lot of anger here.—It's been a stressful night. For various reasons, the monkey was supp...

+ Losing It—The Monkey has been struggling with "freak out" attacks for as long as...

+ So, an update...—I know the monkey had started to (on paper) write an entry, but I'm he...

+ reestablishing/reconnecting—The Top put my collar back on two nights ago, after shaving the unders...

+ I've been wrong before: The Sleepover Conundrum—Note: It's late, and I'm doing stream of consciousness here, so this m...

+ Feelings I'd rather not deal with—As mentioned in our last entry, the monkey and I are trying to adapt t...

+ being a poly (in practice) slave—We haven't made any public posts lately, but there have been several p...

+ Last night the Top got very upset about the amount...—Last night the Top got very upset about the amount of clutter we have ...

+ emotionally overwhelmed—Since the hit and run incident I've been feeling rather drained emotio...

+ locking collar adventures in the trauma center—As some of you know, the Top and I were on the hit end of a hit and ru...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 8/29/10 4:29pm.  Score: 2297

+ Sister Dee Vs. Luna-Vary at Navy Yard—After a long online flirtation along the lines of "I like your look we...

+ Goddess Shea—Finally got a chance to rig and shoot Shea while visiting her over at ...

+ Suspension of Opioid Video—Some video shot with my 5DII and 135 f/2 - Natural light ISO 3200 - co...

+ Opioid—I had a chance to shoot with the lovely Opioid from Deviant Art and a ...

+ I Now Return You To Your Normal Program—After no updates or updates with video I decided to take a second to p...

+ Ball And Chain—the other song i recorded from the show...thanks Koan and LC for makin...

+ Social Distortion Reach For The Sky—Social Distortion playing one of my faves in Atlantic City - 5D with 1...

+ Amanda Taylor—I had a great time roaming the streets of NYC this past Monday night.....

+ Abandoned Buildings—Had a chance to do some more urban exploring the past few days and was...

+ Chocolate Brownie—so this week i got to shoot the delicious Chocolate Brownie in some ro...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 12/5/09 3:45pm.  Score: 2038

+ Forms of Power—A post here just got a very interesting comment. I'm going to reproduc...

+ Irritating crap! ;-)—I was just poking around the blogosphere and completely by accident ca...

+ The Nature of Abuse—There's a very, very old thread over at Nine Deuce's on BDSM that has ...

+ Thinky comments....—Just got an interesting comment on a rather old post, so I thought I'd...

+ theory, kink, and feminism—I got an interesting comment on my recent post and I thought I should ...

+ Pulling out a comment—This was buried in the comments in the Respect, Again post and I figur...

+ Respect again—xposted from my lji'm too heartsick to excerpt from it... but guys, re...

+ research and knowledge—In the comments to my last post, I've been called by an anonymous comm...

+ More on anger...—This is really just a continuation of the last "My, that was angry, hu...

+ I wish I had...—a coherent response to this:Joan Kelly January 17, 2010 at 7:...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 7/11/10 12:05pm.  Score: 1744

+ casual sex along the way—I've been musing about casual sex and where it fits within the poly sp...

+ blessing upon entering a new relationship—May my* becoming part of your* life: - bring you pleasure, because pl...

+ 10 reasons why you should appreciate your secondary partners:—- they have time for you, even though you don't always have time for t...

+ poly homemaking tip—How do you have your cake and eat it too? I've been asked this quest...

+ meta-moresomes—I have an extraordinary amount of gratitude for the couples who have o...

+ happy birthday to me—44 isn't looking half bad... ;) [Author: kiki] [Category: birthday]

+ bedposts—photo by ItalErian [Author: kiki] [Category: art, erotica]

+ epitoMe— [Author: kiki] [Category: poly]

+ relationships according to my cat—I've been thinking about the individual pursuit of pleasure as opposed...

+ younger men—I have been called a cougar, although I prefer to think of myself as y...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 8/31/10 1:58pm.  Score: 1373

+ Upcoming Events—London Ontario Fire Conclave (thats including me!) upcoming performanc...

+ BDSM Bloopers—Things have been way too serious and intellectual like around here lat...

+ Post Mortem—I never ever do what I am about to do: publicly talk about the managem...

+ The Special Thing—One of the main ones that has become a recurrent theme in my life over...

+ Mind Fucks—Back in the day when I had a very different type of profile, one of th...

+ Leather Families—At its most basic and simple, a Leather Family is nothing more than a ...

+ The Power of Context—'...many of the truths we cling to depend greatly on our own point of ...

+ Informed Consent—Consent isnt the be all and end all of the negotiation process. As a t...

+ The Allure of Fisiting—Recently a friend thought that I had written an article on fisting and...

+ Devotion—I thought I knew what wanted from a submissive, from a partner. Thing...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 8/20/10 10:19am.  Score: 400

+ Pussy flogging and the Magic Wand—Then, just for fun, he took the Magic Wand (on High of course) and mer...

+ Sunday porn update #5—Like previous weeks, here’s the updates from last week for all o...

+ e[lust] #19—Photo courtesy of Emmy Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual int...

+ It’s legal to have sex in the park—A postcard from a more enlightened world: My friends tell me that in t...

+ Naked in a bookshop—We went to our favourite secondhand bookshop. I usually feel comfortab...

+ This space is special—This is how we feel about our Black Room too: I have heavy curtains ov...

+ The sheer indecency of what we are doing—I stand almost naked before his eyes, and before the eyes of the world...

+ Sunday porn update #4—Like previous weeks, here’s the updates from last week for all o...

+ Kinksters are masters of consent—A fascinating analysis: The primary power operation of BDSM is a claim...

+ Anasteemaphilia—Reminiscing about my last spanking has made me think about the size of...

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As of 9/6/10 8:19am. Last new 9/6/10 2:32am.  Score: 371